beware the marriage deficit!

Deficit: a shortage of something needed, required Synonyms: arrears, dead horse, defalcation, default, deficiency, due bill, dues, in hock, in the hole, in the red, inadequacy, insufficience, insufficiency, lack, loss, paucity, red ink, scantiness, shortcoming, shortfall, underage Antonyms: enough, excess, plenty, superfluousness Great Expectations I started out on this marriage journey with such idealism and great expectations… Before…

my cathedral…

“The best things in life are nearest: Breath in your nostrils, light in your eyes, flowers at your feet, duties at your hand, the path of right just before you. Then do not grasp at the stars, but do life’s plain, common work as it comes, certain that daily duties and daily bread are the…

THAT question…

“But what about Socialisation?” This is a question most home-schooling moms will face many, many, many more times than we are given the chance to list any of the amazing and deeply beneficial aspects of home-schooling!! Sigh. Let me answer this here as honestly as I wish I could at times – but don’t, out…

homeschooling resources (early years: preschool/ kindergarten/ year 1)

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to home-schooling. This is, after all, the reason most of us have chosen to home school in the first place! However, it is often helpful to draw from another’s research and recommendations to save time, or just to get you started on the journey. For this reason, I am sharing…

everybody hurts…sometimes

As REM sang so poignantly 25 years ago (where does the time go?!) – ‘everybody hurts‘ – “When your day is long And the night, the night is yours alone When you’re sure you’ve had enough Of this life, well hang on… Don’t let yourself go ‘Cause everybody cries And everybody hurts sometimes… Sometimes everything…

Slow living…and free range kids!

We need to take charge of our own lives – their shape, form and trajectory. As parents, this is even more important, as we shape our children’s foundations and so affect their destinies… There is a much bigger picture, vision, dream and set of principles that drew me on this journey, and keep me motivated…

…so we went to the circus!

When all else fails…go to the circus!! Or so the saying should really go… My previous posts have shared my frustration with this cheeky little imp (aka ‘the imp of insurrection’ as one tv show once called small children at this trying stage)! We have been in a battle of wills for some time now,…

Loving on purpose…

I have been going through a very difficult time with my eldest daughter, who is four – with the feistiness of 14!! I feel frustrated, discouraged and full of self doubt about my own capacity as a mom. What am I doing wrong? What am I missing? What I need most is encouragement, helpful strategies…

principles, priorities…compromise!!

This parenting ‘thing’ has been a journey of so many compromises that I am almost unrecognisable (to me) from the person who started out in those early days of pregnancy – avidly reading pregnancy/ parenting books, full of ideas, hopes and big dreams…   Of course it didn’t help that I am a very opinionated person (really,…

“excuse me love, your breeding is showing…”

I worked in silver service catering many years ago, in London. We were behind the scenes at some of the most glamorous and indulgent events taking place anywhere from Elton John’s house to Cartier, Sotheby’s and Buckingham Palace. I have never been impressed by fame, titles or wealth… So I was pleasantly surprised to find…

informal homeschooling – toddlers and preschoolers

What ‘should’ an average day look like for a toddler if you want to give them a good range of developmental activities and adequate stimulation at home? Of course this will vary for different families, according to the children, their needs, parents’ or caregivers’ interests or energy levels, and many other circumstances… Remember, for most ‘stay-at-home mums’ or those…

Beautiful books: babies, toddlers, preschool

One of the key passions in life that I want to impart to my girls is a love of reading. I read to them daily- often many times a day, as does my husband (who I encouraged to start reading to them in the womb)!  Many of my happiest times in life have been spent…

7 lessons learned…

April and May are birthday months for my gorgeous little girls, and a time of reflecting back on our short but amazing and life-changing time together, so far… So here are some of the lessons I have learned and am learning, on this wonderful journey of parenthood: 1. Keep it simple – This applies on every level,…

…let me count the ways

I spend a lot of time whining about how little sleep I get, or other challenging aspects of being a new mum. I always assume people will read those posts within the context of what a huge joy, privilege and blessing motherhood is… But it seems they don’t always ‘get it’… Many people will assume…

fill all spaces with love…

Being a new mum can be challenging, confusing, even overwhelming at times. Endless comparisons and guilt trips (by yourself or others) seem to come with the territory. But I have found it really helps to keep reminding myself that LOVE COVERS ALL. What do I mean by that? Whenever I feel I am lacking in…

The mother dance

This is not for the faint-hearted, the lazy or the self-absorbed. No, this is not for those who would rather sit on the sidelines drinking coffee with their noses in their phones…while their children run amok and bully and won’t allow other children to share the playground equipment. This is for those who, like me, want…

Make peace with these 20 things…

Life as a new mum is amazing and joyful in deep, beautiful ways. But it can also be exhausting and challenging. Thinking about my daily frustrations, I recently realised that if I could just make peace with the things I am trying to fight or change about this new season… I would have so much…

books I couldn’t have done without…

In preparing for new mum life, from pregnancy through partner/family discussions, to  actual parenting, there is a lot to think about and many questions or concerns to address along the way. Books have been an indispensable part of this journey for me. There are of course thousands of books dealing with pregnancy, parenting, family and marriage adjustments….

Start early..with these core areas

Some key areas I feel we should try to focus on from the very start, making them an integral part of our family culture and values… This post is not intended as a ‘lecture’ or to imply that I am some sort of ‘manners’ or parenting expert – but rather as an encouragement to us…

the blind led by the heartless

we have strayed so far from the path… …it seems to me we hardly even remember or recognise where we were meant to be going, let alone being able to find the way anymore! I am talking about parenting of course (since that is the main focus of this blog) – and my frustration at…